Posted By Fred Lusk
And many of them slip up because their integrity was not what it should have been. Guarding your integrity is not "old-fashioned" at all. It is the smart play. Put your head in the sand if you must, but I refuse to do so. Human nature is human nature and it hasn't changed. Your understanding of it leaves a lot to be desired.Originally Posted by James Lacey
Men of integrity do this every day. I hate to say it, Fred, but that is quite an old-fashioned notion you have there. My millennial generation children, nieces, and nephews would call that an outdated "get off my lawn" line of reasoning.
I am an engineer, not a counselor (to twist Bones' phrase around), but over the years I (sometimes with my wife) informally counseled a half dozen friends who compromised their integrity this way. A late friend who was a family and marriage counselor for about three decades (and a resource for me) told me years ago that one of the most common precursors to an affair was people of the opposite sex working together alone.
BTW, I work with a lot of women, but never alone and never in a closed room. My dad was a high school teacher for three decades and he never met with a student (male or female) alone or in a closed room, for the same reasons. In fact, there have been a number of cases over the past few years where male teachers or bosses have been falsely accused by women of sexual harassment or worse because they were alone in a closed room and the only reason the truth came out is because the woman recanted or there were holes in her story. My attorney friend that I mentioned earlier practices business litigation and handles quite a few sexual harassment type cases. He said that the percentage of false claims varies from about 10% to 30% depending on (1) the study and (2) the ages of the women. He has also told me that his clients often are ashamed they were too trusting and too stupid to realize that working alone with a woman in a closed room is a potentially dangerous situation for them.