Paul. all I can honestly say to that is I am shocked. my first Star Party was nothing like that. I went to TMSP out of Ellensburg WA and the people were extremely nice. I did arrive on the second day of the event and there were about 750 people there already although I am not sure of that years total group attendance, my friend and I were both firstimers, and we did have to setup off the main field. We quickly got to know our closest neighbors, and were invited to look through several of their scopes. All I had at the time were my Bino's and an 80 mm refractor. We stayed 2 nights and by the time we had left I had looked through my own scope the first night and scopes as big as a 24 inch the second night. The TMSP has since been limited to 700 people attending and I have not been back for a few years but I have been there a couple of times since my first time, each time I have gone I have had a blast and met more people. I am a long haired construction worker and have met people ranging from Microsoft Execs. to Boeing Engineers to other construction guys, never did any of them make me feel out of place. I have looked through scopes ranging up to 41" dob, and have been there when there were as many as 1300 people. The people were always part of my positive experience. All I can suggest is that you try a different star party, I will suggest 2, TMSP and OSP, here in the Pacific Northwest we are sort of known for being nice people.